Ask Your Questions About Family Here


We are exactly half-way through Home Free, our family series.  It's been great so far, and it's generated lots of discussion.

If you've missed any part of Home Free you can catch up (for free) with our iTunes audio podcast, iTunes video podcast or online.   And don't forget the small group or individual discussion questions that come with each message.

But I'll bet you have questions about family, right? Situations you're facing, issues we didn't cover, only partially covered, or issues we raised but that left you with more questions than answers.

Questions we've addressed so far in the series include:

  • How do I make the best use of the time I have available with my kids? (Part One)
  • How do I make sure I have a great relationship with my kids when they get older (Part One)
  • What do I do if my kids are grown?  Do I still have influence? (Part One and Two)
  • What are the implications of centering our home around our kids? (Part Two)
  • How do I learn to say no to my kids? (Part Two)
  • How do I set appropriate boundaries with my kids? (Part Two)
  • What role does family play in my life if I'm not married, don't have kids or my kids are grown? (Part Three)
  • How can I find more positive influences for my child or teen? (Part Three)

In the last three parts of the series we're going to address:

  • How to integrate faith into every day family life.
  • How a parent's character and integrity impact a child or teen's development.
  • How to approach technology and social media with your kids

Believe it or not, the Bible addresses all these subjects.

So…having seen the list, I would think you've got questions.  Here's what we'll do with them.  I'll answer them either here on the blog or I'll address them in the remaining three weeks of Home Free.

We've designed Home Free to be an ongoing, relevant, helpful resource for you for years to come.  The more we hear from you…the better the series will become.  So we've set aside some time to answer your questions.

What's on your mind? We'd love to help!

– Carey



  1. dan ackford says, October 4, 2012 at 8:00 am

    Should wives spend all their time and effort on kids and forget that they are married to the one they love???????

    • Carey Nieuwhof says, October 6, 2012 at 2:27 pm

      That’s a great question Dan. And the answer is no…God should be a first priority. Your spouse should be second. Kids should be third. Kids are actually happiest when this is the order.

  2. Victoria says, October 10, 2012 at 1:04 am

    This may seem silly but where do I buy a family bible that I can read to my kids (2 & 4 y/o) during the 40 day spirtual journey? Thanks 🙂

  3. Dora Dobson says, October 11, 2012 at 7:16 am

    We are having difficulty enforcing curfew for our 17 year old. No matter what time is set he didn’t abide by it. How can we deal with this situation without causing a great deal if conflict?
    We also would appreciate some references on discussing premarital sex. Tough raising teenagers 🙁 Thx Carey & team

    • Carey Nieuwhof says, October 11, 2012 at 8:47 am

      Thanks for the questions. They’re good ones and you are not the only one asking them. A great book to deal with limits that get exceeded is John Townsend and Henry Cloud’s Boundaries with Teens book. They also have a child and adult version of their boundaries book. I would recommend picking up a copy. The curfew isn’t llikely the only boundary issue you’re facing and they take a systems approach.

      As to premarital sex, again, it’s a complicated issue. But three thoughts. #1 Try to get your kids around other kids who are making good decisions in that area. Peer pressure works both ways. #2 Get another adult saying the same thing you would say in their life (talked about this in Home Free Part 3). #3 Explain the why behind the what. Most of us won’t do “what” until we know why. I dealt with this question in the Hot Seat series in 2011. It’s the week called “Why is Sex Only For Married People”.

      Hope this helps. Deep issues, but over time you can and will make progress. Praying for you!

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