A Few of Your Least Favourite Things

Thank you so much for the input via email on our strategy document.  We”ll keep working hard on it and appreciate your helpful questions.

Got another request for you.  This weekend in Barrie and February 24th in Orillia, we launch a short, new series called Authentic.  The bottom line of this series is to look at what we need to do to reach the under 30 generation that has walked out of church at unprecedented levels.  Shauna Simmonds, an expert in youth culture and spirituality (and a twenty-something herself), will be joining me to launch week one.  She brings some amazing insights. One thing Shauna and I are convinced of — the under 30s are looking for an
authentic experience of God and an authentic experience of community.

As I prepare my final draft of the message, I'd love to get your feedback on the things that turned you off of church when you were younger (or even today).  What made (or makes) the church inauthentic for you?  What don't you like?   What prevented you from coming or made you not want to come back? What prevented the Christian experience from being "real" to you?  I'd love to hear your stories and insights.

So, fire away.  Over to you!

(P.S.  This would be a great series to invite your disillusioned-about-church friends to — especially the under 30s in your life!)

– Carey



  1. Stephanie says, February 14, 2008 at 9:00 am

    I wouldn't say I had a negative experience at church…I just always had a rather BORING experience at church. I have heard many Catholics say the same. The tradition and ritual, although appropriate in many settings, does not inspire or encourage in my opinion on a Sunday morning when you are 22 😉 I was not encouraged to participate in church beyond showing up on Sunday. There weren’t really any youth activities besides Sunday school, which closely mirrored "sit in your desk" school. I was simply not engaged and most devastating of all…I was not encouraged to pick up a bible and read myself. The music was dull and the message short, to the point and often irrelevant.

    I am so thankful that after moving to another city my parents found a great Catholic church to worship that has them involved in a prayer group, bible study classes, a great message every Sunday and upbeat music. I think it still misses the boat on engaging 20 something’s like me, but I hope that's why Connexus will work for me. I have already volunteered 20 times more with Connexus than I did being a Catholic for over 20 years! I am interested to hear more on Sunday 🙂

  2. Doris Schuster says, February 16, 2008 at 7:55 pm

    I'm responding for my 16-year old son today. When I asked him to answer the question "What did you NOT like about the traditional church that we used to attend?", his answer was very brief: "Everything". He was always bored and constantly looking at my watch during the service. Everything was routine and repetetive, including the prayers, the songs, the messages and the ceremonies. My son and I are very happy now to be a part of something vibrant, exciting and different every week! Neither of us volunteered much at church before, but we both love attending and serving at Connexus. The under 30 crowd is longing to know Jesus in a personal way and a more up-beat environment will help to draw them. Keep up the good work at Connexus!

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