The Deep End of the Pool

I never had a pool before but I do now. I didn’t even want a pool, in fact as our family began our search for a home a few months ago, not having a pool was on our list, okay maybe it was only on mine. Most people when looking for a home start with a “must have” list; I started with a “must not have” list.

I had many reasons for not wanting a pool such as the concern of the additional operational costs, the fact that I didn’t have a clue how to care for a pool and with that ignorance the potential that I would wake up to a swamp in my backyard. I also assumed that after the novelty of the pool wore off, I would be the one solely responsible for it’s upkeep.

Maybe my aversion to owning and caring for a pool comes from an all too familiar childhood memory of when my family would visit a public pool or enjoy a friend’s pool. I was the kid who stood shivering on the side while everyone else would be pleading with me to “jump in already!” Such pressure to conform.

What I didn’t realize back then was that getting into the water, not just dipping my toe in occasionally or wading into the shallow end to hold off the plea of my family, but to actually jump into the deep end was when I would be most comfortable. The whole pool experience would actually be more enjoyable, even warmer, than standing on the side, dipping my toe to test the waters, only to be reminded every few minutes that it really was too cold and only a fool would subject themselves to such frigid temperatures.

As I look back over my first month in my new role here at Connexus I can honestly say that I am thrilled to have finally jumped into the deep end. After taking some time, dipping my toe in every once in a while to test the waters, a valuable process in this case, I can say without a doubt; it’s way better in the deep end than simply cautiously wading into the shallow end.

After months of meetings with the most amazing staff I have ever met, after meeting many wonderful volunteers, as I have had opportunity to crash some small groups and meet some terrific small group leaders, after some valuable time at our Barrie campus in June, and to finally be settling into our Orillia campus, I can say that I am enjoying the deep end of the pool.

Just last night, my family enjoyed some pool time; that is, Kathy and the kids were swimming and I was reading in a comfortable chair. Eventually I jumped in though and we had the best time, diving for rings and playing games that I didn’t really understand, but it didn’t matter. Finally jumping into the deep end was worth it.

I am grateful for the opportunity to serve here at Connexus and I’m glad that I didn’t stay on the side dipping my toe, but finally took the plunge. It’s way better in the deep end of the pool.

If you have any questions about Group Life at Connexus or our Orillia campus feel free to email Dan Barber, our Orillia Campus Pastor and Director of Group Life by clicking here.



  1. Dad says, July 21, 2010 at 4:48 pm

    Hi Son, great blog! I’m glad that you and the family are very pleased
    with the way the Lord has directed you to Connexus. It is wonderful to
    be in God’s perfect will and know it.
    I was intrigued to read of your interest in going to NH. If you really want
    to think about it I could make it later on, like Oct or Nov…i could come up to ONT for a day or two and then we could go to NH for a few days, and then back through ONT. The family would love to see you again.
    Camp is going great! I’ve had help with some electrical and plumbing work, so that is good. Mom and Kathy are doing fine as well.
    Love to you and the family, Dad

  2. Mom & Ken Bell says, July 21, 2010 at 10:25 pm

    Hi Dan!
    We just read your blog…something we had never done before. It really is good to know that you are getting your feet wet…..finally. Haha. But we are very happy to know that you are in the centre of God’s will for you right now. We continue to pray for you and all the family every day. We’re looking forward to seeing all of you at Fair Havens in a few weeks. We’ll be there from Aug. 7 to 14. We’ll be in a trailer and will have room for 2 if the kids are interested in staying over.

    We love you all and pray God’s blessing on you too. Love, Mom & Ken

  3. Joey says, July 30, 2010 at 9:40 pm

    Welcome to Connexus Dan! Campus Pastor Orillia and Small group coordinator is such important positions for our church – it will be great to have you on board. Welcome to the amazing journey – I look forward to meeting you!


  4. danbarber says, July 31, 2010 at 9:03 am

    Thank you Joanne for the warm welcome. I look forward to meeting you and I am thrilled to be on this journey too!

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