As a parent, sometimes it can feel like we pour all of our time and energy into making sure our kids are happy. Often times, this can mean that we get them into every activity, class, game, or experience that we think will, in the end, make them happy. However, somewhere along the way we tend start to feel overwhelmed, and our tireless pursuit to make our kids happy eventually leads us to look back and ask ‘Is it really worth it all?’
In this busy fall season our friend, Reggie Joiner, has some great insights to help us make sure we are focusing on the most important things in our kids life.
Imagine The End – Reggie Joiner
Most parents can’t give their children a lavish inheritance, but every parent will leave a personal legacy.
With the excess that surrounds most of us, a lot of families get sidetracked from what really matters. We become so preoccupied with giving kids an inheritance that we forget the significance of leaving a legacy. Sometimes I just have to be reminded that what I give to my children or what I do for my children is not as important as what I leave in them. Isn’t it interesting how “stuff” can distract us from what is really valuable?
Too often, parents believe the end goal is to make their kids happy. There are moments when I will buy anything, do anything, and go anywhere if it will just make my kids happy.
Parents don’t like it when their kids are in a bad mood. Things are just easier when everybody is happy. You are happy when they are happy, so you’ll watch a blue dog on television, eat McNuggets, buy pet turtles, listen to the Wiggles, and mortgage your house if their happiness is at stake. You don’t want them to be spoiled; you just want them to be happy.
An entire marketing industry is built around the idea that parents want their kids to be happy. The advertisers know that we will sign them up for anything and everything to make sure they are socially adept, experientially rich, and academically well-rounded. We will recruit coaches, tutors, instructors, and mentors to make sure they can dance better, sing clearer, jump farther, throw faster, hit harder, and test higher than other kids.
Whenever we define a child’s happiness as our ultimate goal, we settle for something far less significant than what God has designed for them or what He has designed them for. Read More…..
Taken from theparentcue.org written by Reggie Joiner, © 2000-2014 The reThink Group, Inc. | All Rights Reserved
With everything happening in this fall, here are two practical things that you can do for your high school student this fall that will significantly impact their life, while helping you imagine the end.
1. Encourage them to attend the InsideOut Back to School Bash taking place This Sunday, September 21st @ 7pm here at the Connexus Office (546 Bryne Dr.). (A bus will leave the Best Western Mariposa Inn @ 6:15pm to bring students to Barrie from Orillia) This is a great chance for your high school student to build relationships with friends who are moving in the same positive spiritual direction. It is also a space where your student can start a relationship with a dedicated small group leader who will faithfully invest in your child’s life each week. There will be a live band, prizes, games a free sundae bar and so much more. As you encourage your student to come regularly, you will notice changes in their life as they begin to take important steps in creating a faith that lasts.
2. Get them to Vertical Reality and Frequency Weekend.Vertical Reality (more info) and Frequency (more info) weekend is continually life changing for students and you can register yours right here . Vertical Reality and Frequency is Oct 17th-19th at Ontario Pioneer Camp. Don’t let them miss this incredible chance to encounter God in a new way and to build friendships and relationships with small group leaders that could help build a faith that lasts a lifetime!
Before I go, I just want you to know as the Director of Student Ministries, I’m here to help you as a parent too. We have a great team of dedicated small group leaders who can help too.
If I can help in any way at all, just hit reply on this email or call me at the office at 705-721-9090 ext.231. I’d be happy to chat!